• Living,  Style

    Color & Mood: Rose-Colored Everything

    Maybe it’s because of Valentine’s Day. Or hints of (or wishes for) spring’s arrival. But around this time of year, I am attracted to all things pink. Pink clothes, pink makeup, pink decor, pink sunsets. I even find appealing items that are pink in “feeling”—rose perfume, sweet, sugary desserts and fluffy, marshmallowy blankets. Pink is an instant mood improver. Pink has long been associated not only with femininity, but with positivity, aka “rose-colored glasses.” There’s something about this hue that makes anything it touches seem…

  • Living

    Defying Categories in a World That Wants to Label You

    Recently I’ve been struggling to categorize myself. I don’t mean in the single-white-late-40s-Jewish way. I mean in the will-I-ever-figure-out-what-I-want-to-do-with-my-life-even-though-I’m-nearly-50 way. Defining myself always seemed so important. But does it have to be? I love the podcast “Invisibilia,” which deals with investigations into the things that can’t been seen. Some of the episodes have stayed with me long after I first listened to them. One is about categories. I learned from this episode that one reason why some people struggle with accepting things they can’t understand…

  • Style

    When a Lipstick Is More Than a Lipstick

    You’ve probably read about or experienced the mood lift that can come from swiping on a bright red lipstick. Whenever I wear mine, I feel energized, instantly put-together, and confident. Recently, I’ve been wearing a slightly more orangey shade of the red I usually wear. It’s a color I have a hard time pulling off when I have a tan. So this time of year, when I’m at my palest, is the best time for me to wear it. When I wore this lipstick, I…

  • Living

    Getting Through the Post-Holiday Slump

    January can be a let-down of a month. The celebrations and gift-giving have passed. My calendar is wide-open. I’m faced with the expansive year before me, one filled with unknowns. I’m working a freelance job while searching for a permanent one. I have no major vacations planned. No major social events on my calendar. I can leave it that way. Recuperate from all of December’s activity. Clean out my cabinets. Wash my dingy walls. All of which I’ll do. But I also plan to inject…

  • Living

    The Problem with How We Perceive Goals

    I’m jumping off of last week’s post and continuing my rant against traditional thoughts about resolutions, goal-setting, and achievement. I understand and have felt the euphoria that comes with the sense of completion. I’ve also felt desolation as a result of not meeting a self-imposed deadline. Here are a couple paradoxes I’ve discovered: Completion is often a concept instead of a reality (unless you’re talking about making dinner, cleaning the bathroom or putting together an IKEA dresser). And often even when you think you haven’t…

  • Living

    New Year’s Eve, or a Countdown to More of the Same

    I’m going to be embarrassingly honest here. As much as I like to share what I discover and learn with you, a lot of the time, when I write it’s to remind myself of what I already know. Today’s post is a prime example of this. The holidays are almost over, and I’m feeling pretty down about it. I love the time leading up to the festivities, filled with warm decorations, permission to dress in silly sweaters, and a devil-may-care attitude about indulgences. On January…

  • Living

    When Less-Than Circumstances Tangent to Beautiful Friendships

    Since I returned from my vacation and visit with my family, I’ve been reflecting on the other things that make me happy in my day-to-day life, like my amazing friends. I have friendships old and new. Some date back to college. Others are from work. Still more are people I met through writing or through other friends. What I realized, though, is that a couple of my best friendships came as a result of circumstances that were less than ideal. Escaped a roommate. Won a…

  • Culture,  Living,  Style

    The Tangentier’s Favorite Things from 2019

    Is there anything more fun than coming across something that delights you? I was fortunate to have many of these discoveries in 2019, and I’m sharing some of my favorites with you below. I’ve put them in categories as best as I could, but there is some inevitable crossover, as a love in one category will often tangent to another. Beauty There was a time when I had a more than a cabinet full of makeup, but in recent years I’ve become more selective in…

  • Living

    Making the Holiday Season Work for (and Not Kill) You

    I’ll tell you a secret. I’m stressed out. Life is not going swimmingly. I have plenty to worry and obsess about. You don’t hear about it on this blog because I want it to be a respite from all of that. To be a place where I can intentionally focus my intention on what brings me joy. Which brings me to the subject of the holidays. I know that for many, this season is challenging. There may be strained family relationships. Money troubles. The recent…

  • Living

    Expressing Gratitude for 2019, Tangentier-Style

    A few weeks ago I presented you with an invitation. So, did you take me up on it? Did you think about what good things, big, small or average entered your life in 2019? Did you also think about how they got there? Perhaps a friend sent you a link? Or you literally walked into it? (Large bump on forehead, but hey – the apartment of your dreams!) Maybe you talked with a stranger about a book you weren’t crazy about, which prompted her to…