• Living

    Defying Categories in a World That Wants to Label You

    Recently I’ve been struggling to categorize myself. I don’t mean in the single-white-late-40s-Jewish way. I mean in the will-I-ever-figure-out-what-I-want-to-do-with-my-life-even-though-I’m-nearly-50 way. Defining myself always seemed so important. But does it have to be? I love the podcast “Invisibilia,” which deals with investigations into the things that can’t been seen. Some of the episodes have stayed with me long after I first listened to them. One is about categories. I learned from this episode that one reason why some people struggle with accepting things they can’t understand…

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    The Problem with How We Perceive Goals

    I’m jumping off of last week’s post and continuing my rant against traditional thoughts about resolutions, goal-setting, and achievement. I understand and have felt the euphoria that comes with the sense of completion. I’ve also felt desolation as a result of not meeting a self-imposed deadline. Here are a couple paradoxes I’ve discovered: Completion is often a concept instead of a reality (unless you’re talking about making dinner, cleaning the bathroom or putting together an IKEA dresser). And often even when you think you haven’t…