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    Aspiration Desperation: Going After Something You Don’t Even Want

    I remember, in the not-too-distant past, when I pursued men I knew would be a disaster. Unavailable, damaged…subconsciously, I thought saving them would give me some sense of self and satisfaction. Not that saving them was even a possibility. It was the wrong goal altogether; one that wouldn’t reward either of us. Always focused, always a perfectionist I’ve always been very focused on my creative endeavors. In middle school, I took adult drawing classes, and then I attended a high school that provided an immersive…

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    Tangent from Maureen: Childlike Play and Imagination

    Last week, Maureen commented that playing and being creative with her grandson brings her a lot of joy. I have a 4 1/2-year-old nephew, so I also know how much fun it can be to have the opportunity to spend time with a small child. When I’m with him, I can be in the moment and act completely silly. I may eventually be known as his wacky aunt, and that’s okay with me. But my nephew lives on the other side of the country, and…

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    Grandma’s Stash: Why Those Vintage Jewelry Styles Are So Appealing

    I recently pinned a bunch of jewelry: layered gold necklaces of the vintage variety. Lockets, medallions, delicate little chains…. These things look special, unique, personal…until you realize that every influencer in the U.S. and Europe is wearing them. My theory What caused this look to suddenly take off? I have a theory: this world we’re living in can feel like a shitshow. While we used to fantasize about what the future would look like – and our style often reflected that – the future, which…

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    Mindfulness, Inspiration and Tangents

    It’s funny (and sometimes initially scary) what happens when you practice mindfulness. You notice what you devote most of your attention to, for better (the one friend who automatically gives you half of her French fries without you asking for even one) or worse (the “friend” who always asks if you should really be eating those French fries). What I noticed was how much time and energy I was spending in pursuit of a longtime career goal. I had always planned to someday be a…